Feeling Frisky

“Joey and GiGi” catching up with some porch time and girl talk.

“Joey and GiGi” catching up with some porch time and girl talk.

Dear Mary Jane,

I've been married to my husband for twenty years, and he wants sex far more often than I do. We’re recent empty nesters and together have begun experimenting with pot again, and I’ve noticed a change in our relationship for the better. Any advice on how it can revive my sex drive?

-Feeling Frisky

Oh, Lioness, do I have good news for you! Stoke the flames of your sex drive in this episode of Love, Mary Jane. Cannabis has been used as an aphrodisiac for thousands of years. Learn how it can help you re-engage with yourself, your sexuality, and rekindle desire for your partner right now.

Thank you to Mary Jane’s guest host, Gretchen Giles, who I affectionately refer to as GiGi. Gretchen is an award-winning editor and writer doing her part to shape cannabis culture. She is also a playful soul, dear friend of mine, and a mentor in both life and the media world. I’m happy to share her perspective and witty insights with you. You’ll meet GiGi again on future episodes of Love, Mary Jane the podcast.

If you know someone who could benefit from this cannabis conversation I hope you’ll share the episode with them and allow space for your personal dialogue to begin.

And if you’re feeling frisky, I hope you’ll rate and review Love, Mary Jane on iTunes or Apple Podcasts. Your voice matters to both me and the podcast algorithm gods. Thanks and love.

Advice as written in the “Love, Mary Jane” column in Pineapple magazine

Dear, Feeling Frisky.

Oh, Lioness, do I have good news for you! 

Cannabis is about to become your second favorite bed partner. It has been used as an aphrodisiac for thousands of years. During tantric sex rituals, participants consumed a spicy cannabis milkshake called bhang. It’s also a key component of Ayurvedic medicine to increase libido.

When it’s time to feed your kitty cannabis will assist in heightening those feelings of relaxation since women tend to tense up around sex when they haven’t had it in a while. It will also quiet the nagging chatter in your brain reminding you of things you forgot to add to the grocery list.  Pot can help you get out of your own way and create room for the boom boom.

Consuming cannabis can assist both you and your hubby in getting in the mood, but it’s going to help you the most since us ladies rely on the mind-body connection for pleasure. Be mindful of your pre-foreplay dosage, though. Make sure to microdose the THC! If you get too high, it can be challenging to have a big O, and that’s not fun for anybody. 

Many cannabis products are now sold by the mood they create. You’re going for sensuality. If you and your man prefer smoking or vaping flower, look for some of these sexy strains: Orange Velvet, Mr. Nice, Sweet Kush, Bubblicious, Guava Chem, Granddaddy Purple, Pineapple Jack. And if you live in California, SexxPot is a specialized strain with lower THC content explicitly made for the bedroom (or the dining room table if you’re mixing things up).

Once you’re revved up cannabis-infused lubricants will glide you home. Many of the topical brands will instruct you to apply and then wait for 30-minutes before having intercourse. Yeah, right. Don’t listen to those instructions. Lube up and go for it. I find the increased stimulation comes on quickly - no pun intended. Cannabis increases blood flow and heightens euphoria, so you’ll also experience intensified orgasms. YAY-O!

The key to it all, though, depends on your willingness to truly open up. Let your hair down. Feel beautiful. Embrace your body. Relax your mind, body, and soul and get reacquainted with that man of yours.

You’ll be purring like a kitten by morning.

Love, Mary Jane

Warning: There are a number of cannabis massage oils and lubes on the market now. Be confident you’re buying lab-tested products from a reputable source. Don’t put just anything on the most sensitive and absorbent part of your body.